How to Let Go of Your Past When Raising Children

Typically, a parent who struggles to let go of their past will soon find it impeding upon their relationship with their children, but just how easy is it to let go?

Below are 4 simple exercises that can help parents let go and focus on being inspiring and caring parents:

Recognise what it is that you’re holding on to:

When your child misbehaves or does something that triggers a strong physical and/or emotional response in you, think carefully about whether any past events in your life may be having an influence upon the way you’re feeling and reacting. This requires a lot of honesty, and may even stir up some unpleasant memories that you find difficult to face, but it will absolutely be worth it.

Take a step back and see it in its true light:

Sometimes we all need to take a step back in life and ask ourselves whether what we’re doing or saying is appropriate, worth the effort, or has any value. Let’s imagine that you’ve asked your daughter multiple times in the last week to pick up the laundry scattered all over the floor of her bedroom, and clear away the dirty plates nestled among the other detritus under her bed. She hasn’t complied, and you’re pretty mad about it; but what does getting mad about it actually achieve? Are you helping her to learn that she should take more responsibility for the cleanliness of her personal space, and does it make her feel more motivated about doing it? The answer is probably, no.

Let go in a physical sense:

The minute you feel something triggering a negative response in you, try to relax your body and release any tension that might have built up in your body. There are various techniques for helping you to do this, and once you’ve mastered them and can apply to any situation, you’ll feel an enormous amount of relief, and be in a better position both physically and mentally, to tackle the issue at hand and master your emotions.

Envisage letting go of it from an emotional perspective:

When calming your body and mind as described above, close your eyes and try to picture your emotion as a physical object that is held in your hands. Then, loosen your grip both physically and mentally, and try to envisage the object of your emotional reaction, simply floating away.

In reality, we often recognize the fact that we need to let go of something and move on, but we don’t always know how to do it. Don’t be ashamed to seek professional help if you have past issues that are having a negative impact upon your relationships with your children, and remember that once you master the above technique, you’ll feel as if a great weight has been lifted from your shoulders. Let go, and learn how to embrace life, and parenthood, in a more positive way.

At Full Circle Hypnotherapy, we help mums who are at their wits end because their children refuse to listen to them and are constantly having melt downs. Often mums are also filled with feelings of failure, guilt and shame. Our Full Circle hypnotherapist in Manchester have two decades worth of experience in working with parents and guiding with parenting responsibilities.

If you are looking for Hypnotherapy in Manchester, then you may need to check this Hypnotherapist in Manchester to Guide on Parenting Responsibilities

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