You will be able to score major points with your beloved by giving her a massage -- IF you do it right. If not, it will seem as though you gave her a Vulcan nerve pinch!

It doesn't matter whether you and your partner have been dating for years or you've just started dating, offering to massage her is a great way to increase your popularity. If you want her to experience a pleasure rather than pain, you need the right technique to provide her with the right kind of massage. So that when you give her the green signal to rub her, you don't accidentally give her the Vulcan nerve pinch.

Check out these pointers on what to do and what not to do when massaging a woman.

Getting the Mood Right

Light incense sticks and plays exotic sounds of thunder and rain are unnecessary. If you use an overhead light, you can be uncomfortable because you are straining your eyes, so make sure you choose a playlist that is easy on the ears and make the room more conducive to relaxation with a table lamp. You can skip instrumentals or new age music from the playlist if a song rattles the walls.

Lube Up

To glide your hands across her skin smoothly, you can use an oil or lotion. You can also purchase lubricants or massage oils from a web store or a local drug store.

Straddle Her

Having her lie face down, straddle her lower body. In our experience, kneeling next to her would be more comfortable and easier, but straddling would be more comfortable. As you begin, place your hands above her shoulders and move your fingers all the way down her back in a fluid motion. With your hands on either side of her body and your thumbs in the middle of her spine, that will cover her entire back.

Go Real Slow

A hurried massage can have disadvantages as well. You will look uncomfortable and you will appear unconfident (even if you're not!). Taking your time will make you seem more confident (even when you aren't). A woman would feel grabby and annoying if you rushed through the process. If you feel stiff or awkward at any point, she will feel uncomfortable. So, think about ways you can change it up.

Be Consistent

If you are massaging a woman, be consistent in your pressure and equally consistent in the flow. Don't switch between very light and very deep. Your touch should be light and not hurt her.

Focus On One Area At A Time

It is illegal for a masseur to work both sides at once. Here, you are the masseur, so you should do the same. Just make sure you work on the side opposite to where you started.

Push Out, Not Down

Make sure you don't push down with your thumbs or the base of your palms, because this will only make her cry in pain. Push out, it feels good!

Touch Her Butt

If you've just begun dating, you can skip this step. However, if you're both comfortable around each other, you can go ahead with this step - applying both hands to her glutes and pushing in with your palms or fingers to create some exciting action!

Play With Her Head

The fact is that women love playing with their hair, so it wouldn't hurt to include it in your massage session. Put your hand in a claw shape and gently run from the nape of her neck up into her hair, stopping at her crown. Repeat. To get her in a good mood, massage pressure points at the base of her head.

Practice On Yourself

You can practice massage techniques on yourself to master them (when nobody's around, of course!). Find the dips and grooves in your upper back and shoulders. It is the very pressure point that we are talking about, so if you try it on yourself, you can easily locate them on a woman. So don't delay, get started right away!