"A lot of people overly invest their time and energy into sending a message and custom-tailoring it. But at the end of the day, it’s truly a numbers game online," Lo Dolce says, noting that you should keep in mind that the person you're reaching out to could be getting lots of messages (especially on Bumble, where the woman has to initiate).

That's why he recommends keeping your message short and sweet—no one wants to respond to a paragraph. But make it playful and slightly personal:

- "Howdy! You seem..."
- "I find it fascinatingly wild that you..."
- "You look fun—how's your week going?"
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There are plenty of people on Tinder sending "Hey" and "Hi" messages, which is why yours could be easily overlooked. That why Lo Dolce encourages his clients to make their first message stand out. "Teasing someone is a great way to differentiate yourself," Lo Dolce says. Those of you who are naturally sarcastic might have to be careful with this one. The teases should still express interest and come off as playful and flirty—not judgmental.

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"You mentioned you love The Killers (or insert band/musician here). A bit old school, but I still dig it. :)"
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