"A lot of people overly invest their time and energy into sending a message and custom-tailoring it. But at the end of the day, it’s truly a numbers game online," Lo Dolce says, noting that you should keep in mind that the person you're reaching out to could be getting lots of messages (especially on Bumble, where the woman has to initiate).

That's why he recommends keeping your message short and sweet—no one wants to respond to a paragraph. But make it playful and slightly…

"Breaks must be done with clear rules and for the right reasons," says Spector. A break is not the answer if you are just too afraid to end the relationship, definitely know you want to see other people, or are seeking to punish your partner for whatever reason. In those cases, you should be upfront with your partner about how you're feeling—it's likely you need a more permanent fix to your problem.

For example, if you want to take a break so you can admonish your partner for…